o no no no no... this ain't gonna be the mango fruity advertisement synopsis... i mean... i agree its their tag line, but i can tell you from experience.. it so is true.. we grow up so old.. we get so mature... we stop dancing in the rain (but go to rain dance parties)... we stop being the adorable child we once were (but call our boyfriend/girlfriend "bacha... babu")... we become mean.. we become selfish... but, whether or not we accept... we still wanna be the very same child at heart.. who does not have to plot & plan or play politics to get attention... so... why grow up??? really???well, the elders tell us...
you gotta grow up... you dont have no choice... because in this rat race... if ur left behind... then ur just left behind.. u'd never be able to catch up...
ummmmmmmm... ok... so id run along... behind... in front... but where does this rat race end???
& they say... it ends when u have achieved it all...
& when do i get to know that i have achieved it all???
its when u feel deep in ur heart... that now u have gotten everything & u can enjoy life to the fullest....
but what if i never feel that way... cuz u know, when i start to count.. then there are many a rat races... race to be rich... race to be successful... race to get married to a spouse who understands that i may not have enough time for them cuz im running in the race... yet, the race to be the best wife/husband... race to be the best mother/father... race to get our child admitted in the best school... race to ensure that our child aint left behind & is leading in his/her race... race to ensure our child can get the best college education... race to ensure that our child gets the best partner for life... race to ensure our grandchildren love us... race to ensure our children wanna take care of us when we are not in a condition to take care of self... i guess... that will be satisfying... :)
but the funny part is... if my race ends, when my children can take care of me & when i myself am not in a condition to do the same... then, when did i truly enjoy my life? when did i get the little happiness that i can get from dancing in the rain... or talking with friends for hours... or watching my favorite tom & jerry re-runs... or biting all my nails off while watching bourne series for the nth time... or painting for no reason... or doing my daily dose of su-doku from the papers... or reading the archies strip that appears there till date... or laughing till tears float my eyes just because everyone else is laughing like crazy!!!
dint i miss out on these really beautiful moments when i was in the race of growing up? why cant i just simply be... ME!
This is the reason why we say you must enjoy every moment of your life, tensions are bound to come in life, but let's forget them, otherwise at the end we will have so many memories of "oh god, why don't I did this that day" moment.
ReplyDeleteso you agree... great... now i know there will be one more aye from mine going up when asked
Deleteall in favor of not growing up... say aye... ;P
I liked the way you concluded it... "just simply be ME".. that's the toughest part... :)
ReplyDeleteYou know Sachin, I actually feel that it is the easiest to be you... its just that everyone else is so busy pretending to be someone else that you are made to believe that just being you is not enough... & hence, we try hard not to be just us!
DeleteI feel there should be a balance in life. You can't act like a kid everywhere but having a child like innocence is a good thing. I still feel like a child when I with my close friends and family. I feel the pressure to perform has affected us so much that we think this "race" is our life. I need to get out of this box or "cubicle".and see the world around but at the same time we need to balance our work. It's tight rope walk ;) :)
ReplyDeleteWell.. we are sort of saying the same things Gaurab. I never meant to imply that you should act like a kid... all i meant to say is you don't hapta b like everyone around you.. be what you are.. do what you like... & do it as you!
DeleteWe tend to climb ladders only to realize that at the end that it was placed against the wrong wall. What is more important is as you have mentioned engage in the small pleasures that give happiness in life.
ReplyDeleteYes Rajeev... you got this spot on... also, as someone great once said... you do not know what your future holds... the key to happiness is in your today!
Deletein case, no on has said this already, then I'd copyright this one! haha! :D
I ask this question almost everyday. Why grow up ? You have written a beautiful post.
ReplyDeleteI wrote a similar (not exactly similar though)post on adulthood and growing up. Do let me know what do you think .
http://avirandom.wordpress.com/2012/11/05/5-unpleasant-facts-about-being-an-adult/
Avinash
you're post was really cute too Avinash... i loved it! :D
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