The Complete Man…

We women are made to believe that life can be changed… men can be changed… if only we want them to change… if only we give some love… from romantic movies… till music… till even novels… But im telling you ladies… there is only one place that you can find the complete man… its in make-belief-nostalgic-advertisements of Raymonds “The Complete Man”… cuz just like a happy woman is a myth… so is the complete man!!!

We ladies are in the habit of falling in love with men who run after us & toil for us… we don’t fall in love with men who are above our standards… take it from me in writing… we ALWAYS fall in love with men who pursue us cuz they know that we are better than them… they may have the muscle… they may even have the looks… but we are the ones who always have the senses… we never love a complete man… we always love men who we wish to complete…

We take them up as projects… guys that we can fix… & slowly & steadily, we fix them right… they become perfect, not by nature, but because of our devotion… then, our “then cute concerns” now start to become “interruptions”… our “then words of strength” now become “nagging”… every one has flaws… you do… I do… but everyone does not have a heart over their mind… so when your concerns become need for space… you end up with a broken heart… because he has his mind over his heart!!!

Its not their fault… they have been designed to never be complete… & when they become complete for you… they move ahead & become a project to another woman… its my sincere appeal to all the women with a broken heart (esp YOU)… please DO NOT fall in love with a project… no more pieces to put together… no more riddles to solve… fall in love with someone who loves your flaws… fall in love with someone whose flaws you love… DO fall in love… but fall in love only with a man who completes you, not vice-versa!!!

Retrospection

As humans, it is our birth right to be wanting what is on the other side… it is our birth right to consider the grass greener the other side… it is our birth right to be forever confused… it is our birth right to cry for things that are not in our control… it is our birth right to want something so bad & then when we get it, wanting to run away from it… actually, its as simple as this… In winters, u want sunshine… when sun shines too bright, u want Ray Bans :D... i mean shade!!!

But, life has it own dynamics... everyone learns to cope as & when… when you sit back, relax & retrospect… you realize… whatever happened… happened for the best… but that doesn’t mean that you stop putting in your effort… life changes not by its own will (what you call destiny)… but by your own… if life had its own way… then there would be no fights, no dramas, no efforts, just births… life’s scripts’ play… & then death… death that is peaceful… easy... but you don’t run on an autopilot mode… life is HARDER…

You make your own decisions... then blame destiny or someone else… when you think over it… you think, your effort was useless… but, like they say… nothing is absolutely useless… if nothing, it can be used as a bad example… so retrospect… dig deep… dig a little deeper… & retrospect on every aspect of your life… every right & wrong action of yours… & you will realize… the lesson that it has to offer… good, bad or ugly… your life is what you made it… so retrospect & see what you did instead of blaming others…

Why don’t you say & “mean” that you OWE your victory to another when you so conveniently blame them for your fall??? Retrospect & realize… YOU can make the change… YOU are the only one who is driving your life… YOU are the only one responsible for how it is shaping up… Don’t blame another… JUST RESTROPECT & mend your life!!!

Cheers…

Did you know, that when you raise a toast… you hapta take a sip before you put your drink down… this is sheer courtesy… I really dunno why a toast is raised in the 1^st place at the moments of celebration… I don’t even know why you must know how to at least carry a drink at social occasions even if you don’t drink… I don’t even know why the whole concept of casual drinking came up… or social drinking… all I know is winters is the time when drinks make you feel warm… keep the cold at bay… mum gives us a spoon of brandy before sleep during winters… then why do people drink in the summers??? Or in the rain??? Or to celebrate??? No idea, I must say!!!

I have asked a multiple people why they drink… & they say, you wouldn’t know if you don’t drink… I say… you drink so often… temme… when you’re happy... you drink.. when you’re sad… you drink… when you’re angry… you drink… when you’re tensed… you drink… when you’re bored… you drink… when you get money… you drink… when you are short of money… you drink… apparently, drinking is like cadbury’s celebration… with or without occasion… you gotta drink… everyone said… you just wont understand!!!

I asked a multiple people… you drink… get high… loose your senses… puke all around… make terrible mistakes… trouble others for no reason… make your loved ones cry… say nasty things to others.. show people the mirror they don’t wanna see & one that may cost you your relationship (friendship till marriage) or even your insecure job… have you ever asked yourself why… don’t you feel its not right? Can you give me one reason why you should drink??? then I got the most classic answer to all of my questions, that shut me up for life… Drinking doesn’t give any answers… it just shuts up all the questions! Cheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeers ;P

Section 309

This caught my attention about a month ago… “Section 309 to be amended”… I was like, will it not have a hell lotta consequences??? But, is it even ethical in its current state??? after a lotta googling I found out, to amend or not to amend has been a never ending debate… apparently, the Supreme Court in 1994 struck down section 309 as unconstitutional on the ground that it amounted to punishing the victim-accused twice… this verdict was, however, reversed in 1996… I have been trying to form an opinion about it a long time now… but everything about it confuses me!!! Now, what the heck is section 309, YOU would think???

The basis of section 309 is mens rea aka guilty mind, infact it is the basis for every penalization. The Indian Penal Code “Section 309” punishes attempts to commit suicide and any act towards it. Apparently, the attempt to commit suicide also needs a guilty mind, hence, the penalization. The debate has been as old is 1884, in Queen Emperor v Ramakka ILR 8 Mad 5, it was held that those attempting to end their lives because of family discord, distraction, loss of near and dear relation or any other cause of like nature overcoming the instinct of self-preservation, should not be held guilty. Even, renowned jurist Tej Bahadur Sapru in his Indian Penal Code (at page 258) said they deserve sympathy, indulgence and consolation instead of prosecution.

The Law currently holds section 309 as a deterrent, but the same was challenged by Justice P.B. Sawant in the Maruti Sripati Dubal case (1987) (Criminal Law Journal 743 Bombay), as he saw no justification in using section 309 as a deterrent. He said: “If the purpose of the prescribed punishment is to prevent the prospective suicides by deterrence, it is difficult to understand how the same can be achieved by punishing those who have made the attempts. No deterrence is further going to hold back those who want to die for a special or political cause or to leave the world either because of the loss of interest in life or for self-deliverance.”

Every person, at some point in time in their lives, while being in the so called “sane” or “insane” state, has considered suicide… it could be because of any reason… lack of money… lack of love… lack of basic amenities… lack of trust in near & dear ones… lack of near & dear ones… loss of all materialism… loss of family… loss of friends… loss of lover… in short, there is a loss of will… to live… this is generally termed as depression… by most!!!

well, if the person is already feeling that he/she is being punished by God/nature/whatever… why does the law want to punish them even more??? Thinking from this point of view, I feel that the law should be amended… but then I feel, that people may just use depression as an excuse to die rather than imbibe a will to fight… thaz when I feel, it should not be amended… but then I feel it takes a lotta courage to end your own life for whatever reason, so if a person is considering suicide, there must not be any other option, so I feel it should be amended… but everyone says that only cowards suicide… so maybe it never will be amended!!!

Celebrating Life…

The easiest thing in life is… is to go with the flow… right??? You travel downstream much faster than you travel upstream… fact of life… even proven mathematically… speed when traveling downstream = x+y, where x is your speed & y is the speed of the stream… & speed while traveling upstream = x-y… which is faster??? Downstream of course… but the whole problem is… what the hell will you you do reaching downstream at less than ½ the time when you need to go upstream… downstream there will be a 100 million others cuz it’s the easy path… but upstream there will only be a few… do you wish to be lost in the 100 million or do you wish to be the few that everyone looks up to??? Celebrate the journey!!!

Ummmm… guess you know where you wanna be… if you wanna be upstream… then, you gotta stop going with the flow… you gotta stop taking the easy way out… you gotta pursue your own niche… so how do you reach the other side of the stream… via a great job… amazing paycheck??? Noooooooo… that is the easy way out… you will only go downstream & do exactly what everyone else is doing… being miserable & slogging to become above average but not willing to go upstream… to have a great future… you will be killing your present for the future… but do you know the best & the worst part about future??? It is UNPREDICTIBLE… for all you know, you could be dead tomorrow… so what you got today… is the best you got… don’t slog today for a better tomorrow… don’t work today to be able to fulfill your dreams tomorrow… start on your dream today… right now… cuz TODAY, maybe all you have!!! Celebrate everyday… celebrate today!!!

Some may love you for your boldness… some may think you’re stupid… some may hate you… be hated… for all you care about is you… be loved by you… even if that is at the cost of being hated by others… its easy to be loved by another.. all you gotta do is compromise… but you know a true hero is always hated by others… infact many others… every hero, from Spiderman to Gandhi… was hated… irrespective of how good a person you be… if you are YOU & wanna remain YOU, you will be hated… don’t fret… its no big deal being hated… as long as you know you’re right… as long as you know its worth putting up this fight… hate is not synonymous to bad… hate is just a higher degree of appreciation… most people only hate a person they know they can never be like… hate is just love crossing borders!!! Celebrate yourself!!!

Love is yet another thing that you must do in your life… to have a real life… you must experience the same… don’t expect to be loved back… its very difficult to be loved exactly the way you are… but have the balls to love another exactly the way they are… it will take you to a level of acute nirvana… how??? Cuz you either don’t, or you love someone with every nano particle of your body… & there is no doubt about it… loving someone selflessly will fulfill your purpose in life, it will automatically make you a better person cuz to be able to give in completely without expecting, is the greatest a man can ever achieve!!! Celebrate the emotions… Celebrate life!!!

The Journey…

I have, as per a matter of fact… never believed in superstitions or horoscopes or numerology or luck doing things for you or editing your destiny by giving food to cows... blah blah... but i still for a matter of fact… consider myself extremely lucky… cuz in spite of everything that happens… of all the crimes that happen on a daily basis.. of all the bombs that fall… & of all the natural disasters that take place all around… I still have never been a victim to any… that makes me lucky.. right??? I mean, I remember, I was in CP a couple of years ago, infact many years ago… enjoyn like crazy with family… the moment we left… there was a bomb threat & 1-2 blast around… after we came back from Kerela… South India witnessed tsunami… I walked the same road a few hours ago, post which a girl was raped there… my point is… ive been lucky!!!

Apart from that… there are so many people who I personally know… who toil all their lives, but never get what they want… they die working for it… but they don’t get it… I on the contrary… always get what I want… literally… I may get it easy or may need to toil my a** off for it or I may hapta beg & cry for it… but eventually, I get it… sometimes, I get it after I have given up on it… I mean like long long after I had given up on it… but I really wanted it soooooooo bad.. that some miracle works it course & I get it… & as soon as I get it… im like… I got it… but do I need it??? do I want it anymore??? I feel as if I deserve better… I feel I cried a million rivers over it, so, I must have wanted it real bad… but I dint get it & was okhay with it… now that it is standing right here… im not sure if i want it… it doesn’t excite it anymore… why???

Then, I got to know… it’s a basic behavior of all human beings… they really want something… try everything to get to it… but when they get it… its like… the end… its just like everything else… regular… nothing enticing about getting what you wanted.. a sense of wanting something more creeps in… its BASIC behavior… its not my fault or yours… so… toil… nothing gives better adrenaline rush than the toil part… when your see your efforts falling into place & see yourself achieving what you wanted… you feel supreme happiness… this happiness fades when you reach where you wanted, because then you’re like… I wanted it… I got it… what next… so… to ensure that you enjoy every bit of what you want… break your goals!!!

During our 1^st 3 days at amity, we had multiple gyaan sessions, by multiple people… a hot shot from HCL came & this is the gyaan he gave.. he said.. the journey is always enjoyable… when u reach where you wanted to, there are only two things you can do… you can either go ahead or come back (cuz after all, how long can you stay at 1 position)… he said to be content in life… break your goals.. aim a little… when you reach there & are satisfied… aim higher… this way… you will always be traveling… this way you will always feel the rush… this way, you will always love what you want… this way, you will always be satisfied that you achieved what you wanted… & this way, you definitely will not get bored… this way… you definitely will not.. you know… never ask… what the eff now??? ;P


P.S. I only posted this because you wanted to see the similarity... else... Rauuuul... i wasnt planning to post such a similar post post reading your super similar 1... :O

Is It Over?

is it over... is it really the end?
its not over.. if your asking this question...
its not over until you want it to end...
is it over when you want it to end?

maybe ya.. maybe not...
if you're thinking about it consciously...
& trying for it to end...
its not over.... cuz u're still thinkin' about it!

if you're not putting enough to make it end...
you're clearly not wanting over...
you're not trying your best...
maybe cuz u still dont want it to end!

to let it free... or to think over it...
how would i know... ever...
both are two different things...
but in the end, mean the same thing!

so.. temme how do i know...
is it over.. is it really the end???
its just a simple question, i ponder over...
how do i know... if it really is over???

When You Love… Believe You Can!

In love aajkal, Rishi paji says “oye veeray, sacha pyaar zindagi vich sirf ek vaari honda hai” (hey boy, true love happens just once in a life time) but maan… we are the mango people… eh right??? Cuz just like saifu said “paji, mujhay toh kum se kum 15 baar ho chukka hai!” (I have fallen in love atleast 15 times).. I mean, we are the aam junta… right… dude… I swear… mujhay toh 15 baar se zyada baar hi hua hoga! :P

after all… what is love… its just some chemical reactions in your brain that increases your sensitivities by affecting ur hormones in a weird way… I mean… it has been scientifically proven that "love" & "looking at art" that entices you affects the same hormones & creates the same kinna feeling… so apparently, when you like an art & are in deep thoughts about it… you feel the same feeling as love... im not saying this.. it was published in papers... google it, if u don’t believe me!!!

but still… I "still" do believe in true love… Ashwin sir found true love in Anjali maam & vice versa… but I know, its not a fairy tale thing… cuz I know Ashwin sir goofed up big time on the 11^th marriage anniversary… ha ha ha….so, I do believe in true love… just proof of the fairytale part is *phoof!!!! cuz its a fact that it is so darn cute, when your boyfriend stands behind you & smells your hair for hours… you think this is love cuz he says with sincerity in his voice “i would be a loser without you”… but, when you think practically after it is off… you say, it was the best thing to do… it took me a lotta courage to let go off the one I deeply loved… after all “courage is the price that life exacts for granting peace”.. right???

Both move along… both think I did my best… if it has to happen… it will happen on its own… cuz like every1 says… If your love is true, u wont hapta call for it, it will come to u on its own…. Cuz apparently if you cant do anything about it… then you shouldnt do anything about it… but, I don’t believe in all these worldly philosophies… I don’t believe in “it will happen on its own”… I believe in “make happen”… cuz… like it was rightly said in the movie “The Pursuit of Happyness”… Don't ever let somebody tell you... You can't do something... You got a dream... You gotta protect it. People can't do somethin' themselves, they wanna tell you you can't do it. If you want somethin', go get it. Period!

Did I deviate from the topic again… maybe... maybe not… my point is… just like my father says… im an incurable optimist… I do actually believe I am one of these incurable patients!!! So don’t give up… if you love something or someone… just don’t give up… your efforts will eventually pay off!!! They have to... just believe in yourself… Period!

Casanova

Giacomo Casanova was so famous as a womanizer that his name (till date) remains synonymous with the art of seduction... surprised... Casanova was a man??? yea.. he was.. a real 1... he even has jail records for the numerous crimes he committed... but today, he is just a synonym for a womanizer... Just like Ravana is synonymous for an evil man or a demon... & is only known as the rakshasha who kidnapped Sita maiya & is the reason why we celebrate Dusshera... most people dont know that he was a devout follower of Shiva, an exemplary scholar, a capable ruler, knowledgeable of studies such as Ayurveda & political science & a maestro of the Veena... infact, his knowledge base made him even more powerful than 10 scholars put together... just that his arrogance became so big that he became a victim to his ego, ignorance & arrogance.

what  is my point? My point is that you judge a person by only the evils he/she committed... & compare people with evil traits with them... but we absolutely ignore the fact that we are demeaning these people by comparing these super leechads with these devils... cuz even though evil... these devils were atleast more knowledgeable than these leechads we compare them with... even though these devils' did their sins... they had higher morals than these leechads we see in our daily lives... for example... did u know that Ravana vowed before a rishi muni that he shall not enjoy another man's wife against her will??? not very moral to enjoy another man's wife... but atleast moral enough to not do it against her will!!!

so before you compare someone with Ravana... make sure you CAN COMPARE THEM??? cuz its demeaning & derogatory to compare a dead man who was given moksha by Lord Rama himself with a leechad mortal existing now... similarly, here is a little something... you dint know about Casanova... before you compare a guy with him... ensure that he is worth being compared... Casanova was a man with an inquisitive mind... he had an intense appetite for knowledge.. so much so... that by vocation & avocation, he was a lawyer, clergyman, military officer, violinist, gourmand, dancer, businessman, diplomat, spy, politician, mathematician, social philosopher, cabalist, playwright, writer (he wrote over 20 works), even a con man & a pimp... he even practiced medicine as it was his first love & healed his hand by self when the docs suggested amputation because of the gun shot through it... so, before you compare... just answer... does this leechad even have 1/5th of his qualifications??? if not... you DEROGATE Casanova by comparing the two...

Casanova openly admitted that "by everything good or bad that I have done throughout my life, I am sure that I have earned merit or incurred guilt, and that hence I must consider myself a free agent... Despite an excellent moral foundation, the inevitable fruit of the divine principles which were rooted in my heart, I was all my life the victim of my senses; I have delighted in going astray and I have constantly lived in error, with no other consolation than that of knowing I have erred... My follies are the follies of youth. You will see that I laugh at them, and if you are kind you will laugh at them with me" & even though this is not very moral... Casanova’s ideal liaison had elements beyond sex, including complicated plots, heroes and villains, and gallant outcomes. In a pattern he often repeated, he would discover an attractive woman in trouble with a brutish or jealous lover; he would ameliorate her difficulty; she would show her gratitude; he would seduce her; a short exciting affair would ensue; feeling a loss of ardor or boredom setting in, he would plead his unworthiness and arrange for her marriage or pairing with a worthy man, then exit the scene... hence... Casanova would use them at their will & recline at a good note... or atleast i feel that way... so when you compare... ensure the leechad is not an absolute leechad & has some morals!!!

im not making any of this up... Source: the Internet aka a plethora of information! ;P

Ishq… Ek Dum Filmy Style!

They say, “upar wala sabki jodi bana k bhejta hai!”… God always pairs you beforehand… they also say “jab tumhay tumhara sacha humsafar mil jaega toh tumhay apnay aap pata chal jaega”… when you meet your true soul mate, you will get to know on your own…

I swear, every girl dreams of being treated like a princesses by her lover… even tomboys like me… so don’t gimme the saari ladkiyan aisi nai hoti hai (not all girls are like this) shit… every girl dreams that her guy should remember dates, bring her flowers, hug her & kiss her gently & say “I love you” like a million times… every girl wants the fairytale kina story… but F**K man… this is real life… aisa kabhi nai hota (this never happens)!!!

Movies mei dekha hai… (seen in the movies, esp the SRK 1s)… if a girl loves a guy, toh who palat k zaroor dekhegi (she will definitely turn around to have a look at him)… most guys follow this, so I as a general rule ensure I don’t do this even if I like a guy. :P also, they say, you will be alone in the crowd... it will just be you & him… everyone & everything around you will disappear… it will be magical… everything will be just perfect… like picture perfect… & yea, slow motion too… blah blah… WTF???

So, one day my sister told me… I was at the GK metro station, texting back & forth, in full tension… Shivangi was runnin late… Nancy was stuck at IP because Parul sir was yet to come… it was hot, thank God I was wearing a white tee… it was hot man, but in all this irritation, agitation & the back & forth texting, i suddenly looked down…

& he looked up… our eyes just met… locked with each other… & suddenly the busy metro station was a deserted staircase, with me at the top & he at the bottom just gazing at each other… it was as if the whole world was on mute & the only sound was the melodious music from a 100 synchronized violins & saxophones… His beige color 3/4^th & the black & white checked shirt so beautifully complimented his 5’9” height & fair complexion…

for 2 whole hours (which actually were just 2 minutes, the 2 hours is the slow motion effect)… there was nothing around but them & then, just like in the movies… in the freakin’ hot weather, cool wind blew & the breeze ran through her hair as both of them looked at each other & she just wished that this moment would pause & stay like this forever… oh… is it love… she implored & closed her eyes in a prayer… & God said “this baby, is your true soul mate!” & when she opened her eyes, she saw him inside the metro… she wanted to jump in too & be with him forever & ever… but stupid Shivangi & Nancy… Grrrrrrrrrrrr… she had to wait for them… but the question remains unanswered… is it love? Is it love? Is it love? Is it love?

To be continued… if he IS actually what my sister believes AS her true love!!!

Time Heals… Huh???

Time is a healer, trust me… haven’t you heard that like a million times… but is time a good healer??? Ummm… good healer… what the heck is that? A good healer is what heals you so well that even if you see the causes of your wounds 5 decades later, you don’t hurt, you don’t even flinch an eye… infact, it makes no difference to you… so temme… is time a good healer???

I read this as status on multiple people’s wall, so im not sure, who came up with this one… but it read… “A broken heart is what makes life so wonderful five years later, when you see that special guy in an elevator and he is fat and smoking and saying 'Long time no see'”;))

Well… does that mean time is a good healer?

Of course you don’t hurt… infact you’re happy that you’re still hot & they are not…

You don’t flinch an eye… in fact, you stare at his baldness & his belly…

Does it make a difference to you??? Ummmm… do you thank your stars that your not with him or do you feel, serves him right… for not being by my side???

If time is a good healer why are you even thinking anything wrt him?

You had such a crush on this girl since you were in 9^th standard, you could kill for her.. die for her… she was your true love… the one you sincerely wanted to be with forever & ever… but before you could ask her out, you got to know that your very best friend is dating her… you back out… 9^th… 10^th… 11^th… 12^th… college 1^st yr… 2^nd yr… 3^rd year… you haven’t seen her for 7 years… you have moved on… have had your share of love affairs… but suddenly, you & your gf bump into them at a party…

you don’t flinch an eye… your thing is prettier than her eh…

you don’t hurt… 7 years & 5 breakups has made u strong eh???

But why do you drink like a fish today if it doesn’t make a difference to you???

Do you really believe time is a good healer?

Time heals… yea right!!! Time does not heal… Time CANNOT heal TRUE LOVE… it just acts as a fix… heart is like a mirror… if it breaks, you can join it & still look at it… but the joint is forever visible… & try run ur finger though it… you will bleed!!! Time is not a healer… its just an avoidance!!! It makes you think your strong, cuz if it was true love, you will hurt… forever!!!

I Surprise Myself!

Just when I thought the flirt in me is dead, I surprised myself…

He said “you’re nasty!” I said “im tasty too.. strawberry lip balm is my favorite in the whole world ;P”

I guess I still believe, healthy flirtin’ is good… but…

Just because im single, dusn mean im available…

This guy liked me from a long time now… & this was the perfect opportunity… i just had a break up… so he approached me & said “babe, you look hot!”… I said “of course I do… I just got royally burnt…”

Stay away… I look calm on the surface, but the coal is still burning underneath!... & I truly believe…

You can’t compare men with dogs, there is no match…

They say, men are like dogs… its said so, cuz they WISH to live a dog’s life… if you can’t f*** or eat something, piss on it… But, when Japan was hit by a tsunami 8.9 on the Richter scale… people died… people saw others die… they dint help… they ran for their lives… but the two dogs whose video went viral after a news crew filmed one of the dogs faithfully standing guard over his exhausted pal after they survived the disaster in Japan, tell you, don’t compare men with dogs, DOGS ARE LOYAL!

Yea I know, you’re thinking im dumb… but…

Weeeeemen are dumb… eh???

Ever noticed, how men always say “women are sooooooooo dumb” with emphasis on wo (spelled as we) & so.. it always sounds me as “Weeeemen are soooooooo dumb!”… my brain always knows that they are talking about women, but inevitably, i always feel as if they are talking about themselves… “WE men are sooooooooo dumb” :P

I deviated like always… but that makes me curious….

Do you give your special decoding algorithms to words, especially in songs???

I have heard a million songs… & inevitably every time I hear songs, there are some side comments runnin’ through my head… you may refer to the post “& John Mayer does it” to read what I think about when I hear a song!… & sometimes I have the weirdest of questions when hearing a song… Main barish kar du paisay ki jyotu ho jaye meri… means… I shall shower money if you become mine… but because I have a cousin called “jyotu”, the only thought that comes to my mind is… “why the hell on this earth does Akshay Kumar want Jyotu???”

I shapat… im so weird, sometimes, I surprise myself! :D